For many parents, parenting becomes a stressful undertaking. It’s quite normal to be hard on our children. That’s one of the most basic instincts, right? One of the reasons parents have such high levels of stress is that they are overly harsh in their discipline of their children.
This hard-on factor might explain why some parents get divorced or what has happened to their relationship with their former spouse. Although it can’t be denied that many parents learn to deal with the hard-on factor and become better parents and spouses as a result. In most cases, the divorcing parent gets to become more sensitive and forgiving.
Although this might sound good to many people, however, there are some problems with a harsh approach to parenting. It’s one thing to be hard on a child; it’s another to use discipline techniques that don’t bring about any positive outcomes. In fact, these methods may even make things worse.
Let’s take parenting for example. Most parents only realize that using frequent spanking when disciplining their children may actually be bad parenting when the results aren’t necessarily what they expected.
Most parents are familiar with the types of ways children learn. Using a sharp smack on their bottom for saying, “No, you can’t have my shoes,” or hitting them on the bottom for being difficult, really doesn’t work.
Instead, using mild verbal and physical discipline with your child at appropriate times will help them understand your point of view and have a better understanding of their actions. And this is good parenting.
One important part of parenting is not to hurt the child. If you have to, use extreme force to do it, but stay away from physical punishment like kicking, punching, or hitting the child. Remember, discipline needs to be done in a civil way.
Punishment is not only ineffective, but it also teaches kids a different lesson than teaching discipline methods that are non-physical. It’s important that parents teach their children how to make up their own problems. By helping your child come to terms with what they are feeling, rather than using punishment, the child learns to look at that feeling and work through it, rather than just “snap” it.
Parents should also make it a point to find the difference between real discipline and harshness. With all the rules of everyday life, a tough and gentle approach to parenting can be a lot easier to handle. Parents need to remember that there are always gray areas, and one way of dealing with those gray areas is to use discipline that’s softer.
Remember, no matter how many times you scold your child, they will always become defiant. That’s why you need to be very firm but fair and consistent. If your child is still acting out, it’s perfectly fine to use some same methods that will help your child to face the situations.
Parents need to remember that harsh parenting will not help their children. Instead, they need to become more considerate of their own parenting methods.